Yesterday it was “Make your dreams come true day” – whatever that means. Tomorrow is Blue Monday – the most miserable day of the year, apparently. But why? It doesn’t have to be miserable. If you’re a business owner you have an abundance of freedom and choices. Rather than feel the burden of the responsibilities of running a business I’d like to help you embrace your situation and find happiness. If it’s normal to feel blue this Monday then let’s be abnormal! Here’s how to make your dreams come true…
What makes you unhappy?
Do you know what exactly is affecting you to make you feel miserable? Common reasons are a lack of money, deadlines for payments and credit cards and the realisation that you overspent at Christmas. It’s normal to miss the feel-good party season that has passed. The weather in the UK also contributes. You literally can’t see the light. SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) is a real thing. Perhaps your self-improvement goals and New Year resolutions are fizzling out fast. Eating nothing but salad is no fun. Being sober and tee-total for “Dry January” is no fun. There are SO many reasons to be miserable, huh?
What makes you happy?
Do you know exactly what you enjoy and what you ultimately want? It’s fairly common to not have clarity on this. The average person will tell you they’d love to win the lottery if you ask them what they dream of. But there’s been many cases of lottery winners not achieving happiness. Money is not a motivator, it’s a facilitator. Time and freedom is what success should represent rather than financial wealth. What do you want to spend heaps of money on? What lifestyle do you dream of? That’s your motivator. Figuring out what you want is the important start of your journey to achieving your dreams and goals.
How to figure out what your dreams are
Make a bucket list. Scribble down every little thing you want to achieve or experience while you’re on earth. Don’t think about how you’d manage to do them. Don’t limit yourself. Simply write down your wildest dreams if money and time were no object. Also write down the smallest things that would bring you joy. Size isn’t important. (Trello is a great platform to use for keeping your bucket list).
Make a dream board. Find pictures that represent some of the things on your bucket list. Pinterest is an awesome free resource for bringing ideas to life with aspirational imagery. Include some inspirational quotes that resonate with you. Create a Pinterest board (you can make it secret so no-one else can see) or download images to create a photo collage either printed out or digitally. I have mine as my computer wallpaper as well as a print out on the wall in my workspace so I see it everyday.
What does success look like for you?
Once you have figured out what your personal dreams and aspirations are it’s time to figure out what your business goals are. I worked with a brilliant business coach towards the end of 2017 to help me figure this out. If you can afford a business coach it’s a great investment and will help you realise much more than you would on your own. If you can’t afford to invest in a coach then find some business owners that you can relate to and create or join a support group. This can be face-to-face over coffee (Desk Cowork is a great place in Swindon) or over group video calls such as Skype. Alternatively there are many supportive groups on Facebook these days (Coffee with Heather and Local Business Network are just a couple of examples). Spend time with people you look up to and ask for their insights.
It’s not backwards day yet (that’s 31st January) but seriously set your ultimate dream goals and aim as high as possible. Then make a plan from the end and work it backwards to now. It’s kind of like connecting the dots and will stop you getting bogged down in worrying about HOW to do everything. Create milestone targets and put dates on them. This is how to build your dreams. Break your goals down into more detail when you get to your 12 month targets. You can book onto a 90 day planning session to help make everything more bitesize and do-able. I would highly recommend taking a day out each quarter to plan and have found that Ellis Bardsley’s GrowthCLUB sessions have helped me hugely over the past few years.
Recognize who you need to support you in your journey. You WILL need help. Perhaps it’s recruiting team members, building business partnerships and creating strong business relationships. Surround yourself with the right people – people who lift you up rather than hold you back.
You can always thank your team members and people in your support network with tasty treats – and that’s where we can really help! Be sure to get in touch to discuss ideas with us or browse our range of corporate cakes and branded baked goods.